“I am a good kid”


“There’s a superhero inside of all of us, we just need the courage to put on the cape.”

Every superhero has a logo that represents who they are as heroes…



The Flash:



batman's logo

And Ozzie:


That is the phrase that Ozzie chose for his healing shirt.

In therapy Tina has been addressing the Reactive Attachment Disorder diagnoses through a wonderful book written by a grown man about his journey to healing

as a foster child, and then as an adopted child, with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

We read a chapter each week and with it comes a way to apply the lesson.

Ozzie is engaged in the story and has commented on how much of what we read he has thought in his own mind.

We have been working on replacing hurting thoughts and behaviors with healing thoughts and behaviors and in essence we are working toward rewriting the self talk script that plays in his mind…

a script that was written many years ago by the people who were closest to him.

As part of this healing journey Ozzie had the opportunity to design a t-shirt for himself using puff paints. It was to be a physical reminder of the truth…

something he could wear, look down at, and be reminded of when the hurting thoughts became too overpowering.

He got to choose his design: an object that represents the healing thought he needs to remember,

and a saying or thought to express that truth.

This was what he created…


a picture of himself speaking these words:

“I am a good kid.”

Powerful in their simplicity.

He couldn’t have picked a better healing thought that he needed to believe more:

“I am a good kid.”

He struggles to believe in its truthfulness. He has been told too many times that the opposite is true.

He feels that it is because he was a “bad kid” that all the hurts in his short life were his fault.

I have heard him whispering in the dark, “If I had only been good then none of this would have happened to me.”

That t-shirt has evolved from being a security blanket for therapy days into being his super hero cape. He wears it now to therapy each week, not because Tina asked him to but because it makes him “feel brave.”


We have begun EMDR work and Ozzie has been asked to open doors and step back in his memories to hard, scary, sad times of his life. Tina sits across from him, guides him through the use of rapid eye movement, in an effort to help him unlock memories and emotions connected with those memories and help heal the trauma. It is beneficial but is SO hard for Ozzie.


“Sometimes what you are most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.”

His eyes begin to tear up and he tenses when Tina says, “It’s time for EMDR work ,”

but he does it.

He bravely faces something that is so hard and so scary for him.


He always leaves the appointment feeling emotionally drained but he is slowly healing those hidden hurt parts of himself…

He does what is hard and shows remarkable courage.


So he puts on his t-shirt “armor”…

his super hero uniform…

 and reminds himself that he is a good kid, he is brave, and he is healing.

Ozzie, I am so proud of you!


Fly, my son, fly!

Christopher Reeve


7 responses »

  1. We regularly read your blog but seldom comment, however we just wanted to let Ozzie know that way across the globe here in New Zealand there’s a family that knew he was a good kid – even before we saw his incredibly cool T shirt.

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