Every June, in the course of a matter of days, we have three major celebrations.
I call it “Toby’s Trifecta.”
During one week a year we celebrate Toby’s birthday, his Father’s Day, and our anniversary…all big events.
This can prove to be challenging for the wife who must come up with a way to celebrate him in a special way 3 times in a matter of days. And as tempting as it is… I refuse to lump them together into one big celebration. I know this would be easiest solution, but as a person whose birthday falls within days of a major holiday (Christmas) I know how depressing it is to receive “lumped gifts.”
And Toby has always done such a fantastic job of making my birthday special despite the after Christmas crash that all are feeling on December 27th that I feel the need to really amp up my game every June.
But I’d totally be lying if I said it was easy.
Buying for boys is hard. It is especially hard buying for Toby because he sets the bar so high. He is my “grand gesture man,” and everything he does is creative, thoughtful and well… grand. It is hard enough to come up with something absolutely perfect for a man who insists that he doesn’t need anything, and then when I finally do come up with that perfect gift I can’t sit back and rest on my laurels and enjoy the glory…
I have to come up with something equally special two days later and then two days after that!
Aaah! The pressure!
But we were determined to make Toby feel as loved as he makes all of us feel, so we pressed on, determined to make the magic happen. I must say that the older my children get the easier it is becoming because I now have a few extra brains creatively trying to come up with a plan rather than relying on my own creativity…
And the invention of Pinterest has also taken the edge off. 🙂
This year we celebrated:
41 years of Toby’s life.
19 years of marriage.
and 18 years of fatherhood.
Here is a look into our (read with a booming voice) : Week… of…. Toby!
Father’s Day began with two extra kiddos as we had Q and Nevaeh for half the day. This is so reflective of Toby and how he lives his life. He opens his home and heart so willingly to children not his own and makes them feel welcomed and loved and cared for. I look at the father he has been to all our children, those sired by him and those born to other men, and I see a perfect example of selflessness and fatherly love.
The kids made his day special with Mickey waffles for breakfast before church, and homemade cards and gifts.
Tyler even made Toby a tie in his primary class at church, and not just any tie: A candy tie!
It perfectly complimented the other tie he was wearing that was a Father’s Day gift from a few years ago.
In the afternoon Toby received his favorite gift… the best gift he could ask for:
A Sunday nap! 🙂
On Tuesday we celebrated our 19th anniversary. I woke to this beautiful gift.
My parents surprised us by sending us an anniversary card with a gift card to Applebee’s, so after work Toby and I enjoyed a date night with no children! We had a wonderful dinner and enjoyed uninterrupted conversation as we reflected on the last 19 years and discussed our hopes and dreams for the next 19.
Then we enjoyed a movie…at a theatre…that wasn’t a cartoon!
We went to see, “Now You See Me 2.” We loved the first movie and were eager to see if the sequel would measure up. It was as good as the first! So exciting! Now that I understand all the plot twists and turns I’d love to see it again and watch for all the hidden clues.
It was a perfect night!
Then round three of Toby’s Trifecta continued on Thursday when we celebrated Toby’s 41st birthday.
In the morning we went shopping so the kids to buy the parts to the gift they had planned. They wanted to make Toby a basket that highlighted some of the big events from 1975: the year he was born. They did their research, made a list and then shopped for items that could represent those big events. They had a lot of fun working together on their 1975 basket for Daddy.
When they got home they added tags explaining each item and included a card that expressed the sentiment that of all the things that came out of 1975 he was the best!
In the evening we put off giving Daddy his gifts until bedtime since we had to drop Rusty off for a young men’s activity at church. While he was competing in the “Wacky Olympic Games” we took Toby to dinner. We ended up going to the Texas Roadhouse which was a fun choice. Toby and I hadn’t been there in 10 years and the kids had never eaten there.
The boys loved the fact that they provided you with buckets of peanuts to munch on while you wait, especially since you are encouraged to throw your shells on the floor. I think they got a thrill out of doing something so naughty. 😉
When we were finally seated at the table the first thing Tyler did was pick up the rolled silverware and unrolled his fork and knife from the napkin. Confused, he held up his black linen napkin, and asked, “What is this?”
Our usual eateries only offer paper napkins with their logo printed on them. 😉
These napkins left him flustered and confused, uncertain if they were there to wipe your face on or to curl up in if you got chilly. His confusion continued up until it was time to leave when he lifted his napkin and asked, “So do I get to take this home?”
This confirms the fact we need to expand our dining horizons beyond the golden arches!
Dinner itself was delicious. The atmosphere was fun and festive and everyone had a wonderful time. I only wish Rusty could have been there. He would have loved the ribs!
After dinner and picking up Rusty we headed back home for gifts and cake. The kids gave him their 1975 gift basket and I surprised him with tickets to Cirque du Soleil. He has talked about wanting to see this show live for years so I decided to surprise him. He deserves it!
This week was all about Toby.
We celebrated him as a father.
We celebrated him as a husband.
Today we celebrated his life and the extraordinary way his life has touched countless others. We are blessed to call him ours.
Happy birthday, dear Toby. Happy birthday to you!